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Why Buy the Cow

by Ella Shines Goldsmith; co-published with Good As Gold Publishing

133 pages; quality trade paperback (softcover); catalogue #03-0416; ISBN 1-4120-0053-X; US$16.00, C$19.00, EUR13.50, £9.50

This is a book for people who are tired of casual sex without commitment. Those who want more out of a relationship than just sex. This book is for those individuals who desire to have the true soul mate that the Lord intended and who are willing to wait, knowing that he/she will be THE right person for them.

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About the Book Why Buy the Cow is a book about practicing celibacy or sexual abstinence. We have all heard the cliché, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". This book is an inspirational and motivational look at celibacy from different perspectives. It is designed for people contemplating or have decided to practice sexual abstinence. It is biblically based and shows references to various verses in the bible. It is divided into 3 parts, Statements, Questions and Answers. It is written from the author's personal life experiences. It is both humorous and thought provoking. You will laugh at some points, cry at some, and even disagree at others. It gives examples and points of views from people she has interviewed on the subject. This book was written as an answer to today's problems associated with teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV and even depression from broken or failed relationships. By practicing celibacy and sexual abstinence, she believes that many problems can be solved among the teens and unmarried population of the world. This book is a definite must read for the Single Christian and secular community.

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About the Author Ella was born in Jackson, Mississippi and now resides in McKinney, TX. She has been employed as a nurse for the past 15 years. She hopes to one day become a full time writer. She is a divorced mother of two children and one grandchild. Why buy the Cow is her premier project. Ella has been an avid reader all of her life. At a very young age, she was considered a bookworm by her 8 brothers and sisters. She would sit in the house and read books, because she suffered from a severe form of anemia, while her siblings would be outside playing. She received straight A's in school in English and wanted to become either a teacher or a nurse, the latter of which she has achieved. She also studied psychology and sociology in college at The University of Southern Mississippi and Southern University, Baton Rouge, La. where she earned a Bachelor of Science Degree in Nursing. She believes her God given talent is writing and counseling. She loves to go to the movies and estimates she has seen over 300 movies and read over 700 books.

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Sample Excerpts or Table of Contents

From Chapter 1
FROM MY PERSPECTIVE
"Celibate!!!!Girrrrrl, are you CRAZY?"
"You Celibate? Yeah Right!
"Okay, I can respect that but I'm not going to give up sex."
" Uh...uhh, I'm not going to stop having sex, Why should I?".
"Not me, I love sex too much to give it up!
"Life is too short, you should live it to the fullest."
" I don't blame you girl", "Really, I'm proud of you."
"You sell a bit, (Celibate), well then I'll buy a bit!"

These are some of the responses I received from people the moment I announced to my friends and associates that I was contemplating practicing celibacy.

You remember what your mother used to say, "Why buy the cow....when you can get the milk for free?" Women want commitment from men, and some men want commitment from women. As long as men see that women are going to accept what they are dishing out, why should they commit? Why should they buy a whole cow, when the milk is free for the taking? If you are giving them what they want for free without ties or commitment, then they are going to take it! Whenever someone is giving something away for free, people usually take what is offered to them, especially if there are not strings attached, or so they think! Remember, nothing is this world is completely free!

One girlfriend explained to me - "How can you expect a man to commit to you, if you are giving him everything he wants and needs without the commitment?" The problem is that today's women has so much competition that men don't feel the need or desire to commit to one woman...

From Chapter 3
UNDERSTANDING THE SINGLE MALE PERSPECTIVE

First of all, let me start off by saying that I, in no way, know how a man thinks, therefore, I have done my research and have interviewed many, many men on this subject. Believe me, Celibacy is not a popular subject with the guys. Men are supposed to be just as celibate before marriage as we women are.

Celibacy is the best policy. Abstinence is the best practice if you are a single person living in today's society. Some men hold to the belief that they cannot live and or survive without sex. They think that their heads will literally explode if they go with sex! Excuse the pun. They seem to think that going without sex is meant only for women.

I am here to tell women and men that abstinence can be accomplished by both sexes. I know that God made men to be hunters and conquerors but God also teaches us that our bodies are temples and the holy spirit abides in our bodies therefore we should not defile the body that God has blessed with his presence and his gift to us.

I have to admit, I have met a few men who have reached a pinnacle in their life and have decided that they are tired of being in one relationship after the other, men are tired of hurting women and being hurt by women. Men are not really feeling like they are being totally satisfied, there was always something missing...something they could not quite put their hands on, but something. Perhaps that something was, not knowing that special someone they were looking for was not in the bedroom. Perhaps that special someone was just waiting for GOD to finish with her so that she could be ready for the man, when he was sent to her.

Perhaps they were hurt badly by a previous relationship and are trying to bounce back and heal from the failure of the relationship and are afraid to commit, for fear of being hurt again. Remember the Bible says, When a Man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. So men, Hurry up and find us!!.... just kidding, for I know that the right time and place plays an important role in the man finding his mate. He should not just go out there and settle for the first woman that comes along. Women, there are some things we should know or remember about men, here are just a few...

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