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Stumbling Naked In The Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make With Women.

by Bradley Fenton

127 pages; quality trade paperback (softcover); catalogue #03-1593; ISBN 1-4120-1215-5; US$19.95, C$25.00, EUR16.25, £11.26

This revolutionary guide offers an alternative to stumbling blindly, outlining the ideal mindset for confident men and opening a new era in men's perception of dating and interacting with women.

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About the Book Stumbling Naked in the Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make With Women is the revolutionary new book on male-female relationships by author Bradley Fenton. The author asserts that a majority of men repeatedly make common mistakes while interacting with women and thus unknowingly come off as unattractive. Fenton identifies these mistakes and suggests some rather unorthodox ways to overcome them. With integrity, maturity and humor, Stumbling Naked in the Dark explains once and for all why some men just don't get "it" and offers a new mindset for leading relationships in the right direction. While most dating and relationship books have focused on understanding the differences between men and women, Stumbling Naked in the Dark focuses on the similarities between the sexes by exploring universal laws of human behavior. Relationship problems are due to the pressure created by the "aggressively flawed" role that people, and primarily men, learn to play in our culture. This leads to men exerting negative pressure and control that causes women to subconsciously withdraw and find men unattractive. Stumbling Naked in the Dark teaches men how to alleviate the stress and pressure associated with dating so they become more relaxed and attractive to women and explores how men can focus on what makes women feel understood and comfortable, leading to their decisions of intimacy and commitment. For example, Fenton offers insights on how: Interactions with women in today's social settings are burdened with pressure and distrust, leading to failure that creates a vicious cycle of anxiety and hopelessness. Most men unknowingly approach relationships as a game and feel the pressure of losing if they don't get what they want. Men mistakenly believe they have done something wrong if a woman chooses not to go out with them, creating an adversarial situation destined to fail. Success with women is not an innate skill that only a few men possess. All men can have a relationship - it's a matter of breaking down mental blocks to attain it. Women frequently make decisions about men based on their own anxieties and insecurities. In many cases, their availability to date has nothing to do with a specific man at all. Letting go of a woman's decision-making - and being healthfully indifferent to the outcome of an interaction while still genuinely caring for her well-being - is the key to attracting women. Making "No" an okay answer from women lessens pressure, adds more fun and actually leads to more "Yes" answers. Fenton also discusses how to break through four common obstacles males encounter on the road to relationship success: Personal Warning Beliefs, Identity, Need for Approval and Tactile Needs and Energy. By teaching men how to become more comfortable with themselves and erase preconceived notions about women, Stumbling Naked in the Dark offers a powerful framework for men who want to disengage from the typical "dating game" and be more confident, fair and intuitive in their relationships with women.

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About the Author Bradley Fenton is president of Bradley Fenton Ventures (BFV), a training firm that works with individuals, companies and organizations concerned about strengthening their personal and professional relationships. BFV provides a variety of products and services ranging from the privacy of self-study courses on new strategies to ongoing reinforcement workshops and seminar training programs. To contact Bradley Fenton, write to: Bradley Fenton Ventures 200 S. Park Road Suite 340 Hollywood, FL 33021 or phone: 954-518-0188 or view his web site: www.bradleyfenton.com

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Sample Excerpt

Excerpted from Chapter 1
State of the "Union"

Guys, who taught you how to interact with women?

Until now, we men have had no clear source from which to gain factual and valid information on which practices bring about the best results with women. Information on the subject is confusing and fragmented at best. It is often based on the well-meaning advice of family members and friends who speak from emotions based on their own personal experiences, which may or may not be useful.

Although dealing with women is a topic of vital importance, there are not many places for men to gain crucial information about it, other than confusing bits and pieces contained within magazines, television, and movies. Thousands of columns are published yearly in men's journals such as Maxim and GQ, exclaiming, "100 Tips That Drive Women Crazy!" While these articles are somewhat entertaining, they are often illogical and useless when it comes to real-life situations, and they're usually based on the advice of personal friends and associates of their respective authors instead of any kind of credible authority.

Movies and television also play a significant yet confusing role in how we think we should act around women. Like it or not, actors such as Robert De Niro, Al Pacino, Jack Nicholson, Steve McQueen and Vince Vaughn are among those whose roles -- and sometimes personal lives -- have set a cultural benchmark on how we believe men should act and be perceived. After we watch their performances, we are left with the Big Question: What is it about these actors that is so attractive to women? We wonder how we can replicate it ourselves. Is the recipe to attraction simply good looks, fame and fortune? Or are there some other ingredients? Unfortunately, we're left to figure it out on our own.

The hard truth is this: Our culture teaches men skills and tactics that are actually harmful to our success with women.

It is our hope that when you've finished this book, you may be able to resolve most of the confusion you feel about this subject. You'll understand what makes men attractive to women, and you'll be able to put this into action in your own life in a constructive, satisfying way.

Now more than ever, men need to gain a better understanding of what women want, and they need to develop the ability to deliver it to them. We need this information because many men are in a very serious predicament, one that often goes unspoken. Tens of thousands of sharp and talented men are stumbling naked in the dark. It's what I call men who are not getting their needs met. Love, sex and tactile needs are basic requirements we have as human beings but in today's fast-paced society, they often seem elusive. Many men go for months at a time without having a date, let alone having their physical needs satisfied. This unfortunate trend is a fast-growing one, contributed to by such factors as longer work hours and an increase in the average age at which men marry. This problem affects not only a lot of lonely and frustrated men but women as well.

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Catalogue Information

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