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My Mommy and Daddy and I Are Getting a Divorce

by Nicole Crowley O'Keefe

70 pages; quality trade paperback (softcover); catalogue #03-1687; ISBN 1-4120-1309-7; US$14.99, C$17.00, EUR12.00, £8.50

A must-have, interactive book that helps your child talk and feel better about divorce. Written by a child of divorced parents for a child, 3-10, whose parents are divorcing.

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About the Book How many times have you heard the words from your children "You just don't understand how I feel." Well, I do understand. I am a child whose parents divorced. I know how hard and confusing this is for a child. I have been there! And so have many of my friends. They tell me things they would never tell their parents. Some say they don't tell their parents what they are feeling because they are afraid to tell them. Others say it is because their parents never talk to them about their feelings. Parents, are you confused or afraid about how to talk to your children about this life changing event? Well, don't worry - I have written a book that takes some of the anxiety out of it. My interactive book tells a story to help your children talk about their feelings and to feel safer and better about what is happening in their lives. This is a must-have books for any child between the ages of 3 and 10. Trust me, when parents divorce everyone feels the pain and everyone needs a way to talk about that pain and feel better.

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About the Author Nicole Crowley is not a psychologist. In fact, she does not have a psychology degree of any kind. She is just a child, a child of divorced parents. Her parents divorced when she was nine. Nicole had all the same worries and concerns as any child whose parents part. She found that talking to her parents about their separation and divorce made the transition an easier and more positive experience. In this book she gives some insight into the world of a child and how a child feels during this confusing time. She has come up with some easy ways for parents to begin to communicate with their child about what a divorce will mean to the child and what it will not mean. Nicole believes that communication is one of the most important gifts you can give your child during this life-changing time. Nicole is currently working on a new book that she hopes to have published by 2005.

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Sample Excerpts or Table of Contents

...I wonder what my friends at school will say now that my Mommy and Daddy are getting a divorce. I think they are not going to want to play with me because my parents are divorcing. I don't think I will want to play with them either. I think I am going to stay right here in my room and be safe. Then I can pretend my Mommy and Daddy are not getting divorced. Then I can pretend my Mommy isn't going to leave me too just like my Daddy did. Then I can pretend everything is going to be all right.
Can you hear my Mommy coming up the stairs?...

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...Mommy said that is not true. She said I am the reason they were trying so hard to make the marriage work and not have a divorce because they both love me so much and neither wanted to be without me. She said the reason they got the divorce was not because of me. She said I was a good girl and all parents tell their children to clean up or be good or not to fight or something like that. She said none of those reasons were the reason for the divorce. She said it wasn't because of me but because of them. She said it was grown up stuff that I wouldn't be able to understand yet and shouldn't worry about. She said she was sorry for not explaining that to me sooner. She said maybe it was best to talk tomorrow when Daddy is over so they could both talk to me about our lives. I said OK...

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...In the morning I hurried and had breakfast, brushed my hair and my teeth, got dressed and ready for the school bus. Mommy said it made her happy that I wanted to go to school today. I smiled. I asked Mommy if I could draw another picture. This one for her and Daddy. She said that would be a lovely idea. She also said that maybe I would want to write down some of my feelings too. She said writing things down sometimes makes it easier to talk.
I like to write but I told her I didn't know what to write about. She said she would help me. She got two pieces of paper and wrote on them. She told me the words on each paper were exactly alike. She said she made it that way so that I could share it with you...

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...The next day at school was even easier than the day before. I didn't feel so alone or different anymore. I even thought I was ready to talk to my friends about what was happening to me.
My Mommy was right. Talking did make me feel better.
I asked Alice and Cindy and Debbie and Jim to meet me at the playground during recess time. I told them it was real important. They agreed and at lunchtime we met over by the swings...

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...Wow talking to my friends has really helped me feel better. I hope you feel better soon too. I know it is confusing and you are feeling sad sometimes and sometimes even mad or confused. I guess that is normal. That is what I felt and it is what some of my friends felt too. But you know what? You are going to be fine. Your Mommy and Daddy love you very much whether they live in the house with you or not. And you know what? I like you too.

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