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Paying for Sex: The Gentlemen's Guide To Web Porn, Strip Clubs, Prostitutes & Escorts - Without Humiliation, Job Loss, Bankruptcy, Infection, Bloodshed Or Incarceration.

by Kerr Fuffle and Roscoe Spanks

133 pages; quality trade paperback (softcover); catalogue #03-1726; ISBN 1-4120-1348-8; US$16.00, C$19.00, EUR13.00, £9.50

How to buy great online porn, have a naked stripper gyrating in your lap or get laid by an erotic professional without putting your life, wallet or reputation at risk.

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About the Book

This book was written for - and by - horny males who are just too chicken to figure this stuff out for themselves. Commercial sex isn't exactly hard to find no matter where you live, so the main reason why guys who are otherwise interested in this sort of thing haven't managed to indulge in a fully satisfying way is that something - fear - is holding them back. So even if you're a total wuss, we'll show you how easy it is to buy sexual gratification with complete confidence. And if you've dabbled in some kinds of low risk sex-for-pay, such as Internet porn, we'll show you how to safely indulge in more adventurous amusements, such as strip clubs, brothels and escort services - legal ones, that is. If you just want to find some great online porn, have a naked stripper gyrating in your lap or getting laid by an erotic professional without putting your life, health, wallet or reputation at risk, we'll show you how.
Here's a review of Paying for Sex by Doxy, who operates the popular web site Phone Slut Diary.
"Next things second -- Phone Slut Diary had been featured in another independent publication and I promised to mention it here. Paying For Sex is a fabulous little "gentleman's guide to web porn, strip clubs, prostitutes & escorts without humiliation, job loss, bankruptcy, infection, bloodshed or incarceration." Because it does not address phone sex, but refers readers to my site (bless), authors Kerr Fuffle & Roscoe Spanks (it cannot possibly be their real names, can it?) decided to put in a few blurbs about me and some other net sites.
Although I'm not a guy looking to hire an escort (and don't expect to be) I found many of the details and hints fascinating. The chapters on throwing brothel parties were absorbing. If you're a gentleman (or not so gentle man) that spends money on websites, strippers, or other such diversions this is a really handy little manual to getting the biggest bang for your buck without getting ripped off or in trouble. They explain etiquette, precautions, approximate pricing, common (and not so common) practices. Want to find out how to encourage a stripper to give you a little better than the regular treatment? It's in there. So, I'm going to be adding it to my Store shopping section because it's just awesome. And I'm quoted in very cute passages. And, you know, I'm an egomaniacal slut. No, really. Okay, well sometimes."

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Paying for Sex
The Gentlemen's Guide to Web Porn,
Strip Clubs, Prostitutes & Escorts*
... Without Humiliation, Job Loss, Bankruptcy, Infection, Bloodshed or Incarceration
*But only where they're legal!
Kerr Fuffle & Roscoe Spanks

DISCLAIMER - PLEASE READ

This book is for adults who do not find discussion of sexual subjects and profanity offensive. It contains controversial material of a sexual nature that is not suitable for minors.
These materials have been prepared for educational and information purposes only. All of the information contained in this book relates to legal activities only and no illegal activities are condoned or recommended.
This book does not offer, and is not to be construed as offering, legal advice of any kind.
The authors make no claims, promises or guarantees about the accuracy, completeness, or adequacy of the information contained in this book. The authors do not accept liability for any errors or omissions and we shall not be liable for any claims or losses of any nature arising directly or indirectly from use of the information, data or other material in this book.
References, resources and links from this book to other books, information and Web sites are for information and convenience only. The authors accept no responsibility or liability arising from access to, or for the material in or on, any book or Web site to which it is linked.
NO WARRANTY OF ANY KIND, IMPLIED, EXPRESSED OR STATUTORY IS GIVEN WITH RESPECT TO THE CONTENTS OF THIS BOOK OR ITS REFERENCES AND HYPERLINKS TO OTHER INFORMATION AND INTERNET RESOURCES.
Reference in this book or in any linked Web site to any specific commercial products, processes, or services, or the use of any trade, firm or corporation name is for the information and convenience of the public, and does not constitute an endorsement, recommendation, or favoring by the authors.
The authors do not warrant, and are not responsible for, the content, accuracy, reliability or timeliness of any external resource or Web site. The authors do not endorse any content, viewpoint, products or services contained within the books or sites external to this book.

To Tina Louise, who started it all.
CONTENTS
WHO THE HELL PAYS FOR SEX, ANYWAY?          9
IT'S A JUNGLE OUT THERE          19
INTERNET PORN: THE SOUND OF ONE HAND TYPING          53
PHONE SEX: DIALING WITH DOLLARS          63
LAP DANCING: THE MOST FUN YOU CAN HAVE WITH YOUR PANTS ON           65
PROSTITUTION: THE LEGAL KIND          89
ARE ESCORTS LEGAL?          119
FOREWORD
WHO THE HELL PAYS FOR SEX, ANYWAY?
Millions and millions of guys, that's who. And they're not all smelly, disgusting deviants, either. A lot of them are, sure, but most of them are guys just like you who want some extra enjoyment while they shoot their wad. According to the Digital Freedom Network, in the year 2000 there were 280,000 pornographic Web sites that made $1.7 billion. Unless a small number of really horny guys are spending a fortune on this stuff, it's fair to assume that commercial sex has become fairly widespread.
In a July 2, 2003 article entitled, "XXX-cetable," Newsweek wrote that "porn has gone mainstream," and found "a national comfort level that few would have predicted even a decade ago." Why miss out? Join the crowd and let your hormones have some fun.
WHAT'S SO HARD ABOUT PAYING FOR SEX?
The difficulties of buying sex fall into two general categories: acute embarrassment, which is largely self-explanatory, and everything else, which is not.
Some guys find paying for sex embarrassing in the same way that coming onto a girl is embarrassing. Just because the lady is selling sex doesn't mean you're not uncomfortable buying it. Heck, lots of us have trouble buying a Playboy at a convenience store a thousand miles from anyone we know. Going into a strip club and having an underdressed and overly friendly female stranger start talking to you and asking you to buy her a drink is something that doesn't come naturally to all guys. The idea of visiting a Nevada brothel or calling an escort service may be all but impossible.
At its worst, buying sex can result in major league humiliation if your wife or girl friend finds out, or if you get caught by the police. Even if that doesn't actually happen, the fear that it might can be too gruesome to contemplate.
Everything else includes physical violence, sexually-transmitted disease, arrest, prosecution and incarceration, financial ruination from losing your job or from credit card or identity theft, and any number of other equally unpleasant misfortunes. Commercial sex often requires venturing into dark and unsafe places, whether it's a seedy part of town or a seedy part of the Internet. If you're not used to frequenting the netherworld, introducing sex into the equation doesn't make it any easier.
For the most part, entering the world of commercial sex is hard because of fear of the unknown. Once you know what's going on and how to behave, you're likely to see that there's some version of carnal entertainment that you're comfortable buying. Some of the fear is justified, though, and there are plenty of things you should stay the hell away from. We'll tell you about that, too.
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
This book was written for - and by - horny males who are just too chicken shit to figure this stuff out for themselves, the guys who somehow have managed not to catch the porno wave that has soaked millions of other guys in their own semen. Commercial sex isn't exactly hard to find no matter where you live, so the main reason why guys who are otherwise interested in this sort of thing haven't managed to indulge in a fully satisfying way is that something - fear - is holding them back.
Hence this book, which we wrote to take the mystery, stress and anxiety out of paying for sex. Even if you're a total wuss, we'll show you how easy it is to buy sexual gratification with complete confidence. And if you've dabbled in some kinds of low risk sex-for-pay, such as Internet porn, we'll show you how to safely indulge in more adventurous amusements, such as strip clubs, brothels and escort services - legal ones, that is.
Even though we all have sex drives, we don't all have the balls to buy a lap dance or hire a prostitute, even when it's legal. That's a shame, because those things exist for guys like us, the ones who aren't aggressive enough to attract females who want to have sex with us. True, guys who get laid without paying for it also frequently pay for sex, proving yet again that it's hard to get too much of a good thing. But the sex industry needs all the customers it can get, so there are plenty of services available for pathetic guys who can't even bring themselves to walk into a Victoria's Secret store to pick up a catalog "for their girlfriend." If you know how to shop, you can buy really tremendous sex without having to get a personality transplant. Our advice: don't miss out.
Also, this book has been written for straight males. We don't know anything about the gay or lesbian sex scenes, so we don't know if any of this carries over to sex-for-hire in those environs. Nor do we know anything about women buying sex from men. Hey, the Not-So-Famous Writers School told us to write about what we know, so there you are.
And, finally, as we shall explain shortly and at some considerable length, this book was written for good guys who don't think that just because they're paying a woman to have sex with them, they're entitled to mistreat or abuse them. The rest of you can go fuck yourselves, because you shouldn't be allowed to fuck anyone else.
FOR GENTLEMEN ONLY
One more thing. We're going to walk a pretty fine line on the subject of the morality of paying for sex. Our point of view is that sex is a fundamental drive that sometimes can't be fully satisfied within the confines of "normal" courtship rituals and marital relationships. For reasons that we don't pretend to understand, sex-for-pay is a case of supply meeting demand - not the other way around - and the staggering quantity, variety and consumption of available commercial sex proves that lots of guys (ourselves included) need to buy this stuff. People who think it's okay to buy sex need to know how, and we're here to help.
On the other hand, abusing women who provide sex for money is an obscenity that we will not tolerate. Men who think they can pay women for sex and then mistreat them in any way - verbally, physically, sexually or otherwise - may not read this book. Don't buy it or, if you already have, return it and get your money back. If you don't, may the crab lice lick your manly parts for all eternity.
The sad fact of the matter is that sex workers already take a tremendous amount of shit from far too many asshole customers, and we have no intention of subjecting them to a whole new crop of assholes who would otherwise be too scared to bother them. We can't do anything about the assholes who already pay for sex, but any new customers this book brings into a strip club or a brothel are going to treat these women like ladies. And to make sure that happens, we're going to explain very clearly what kind of behavior turns an ordinary "punter" (as the English say) into an asshole and how a gentleman should behave.
Why should you listen to us on this? First, no self-respecting human being would treat another human being the way most men treat strippers, prostitutes and escorts. If you act like scum, you are scum.
Second, if you exhibit impeccable etiquette in all your dealings with sex professionals, we guarantee that you will get much better sex than all those jerks who don't. In fact, decent behavior is so rare among the patrons of commercial-sex establishments that anyone who practices basic manners will earn the sincere appreciation and deep affection of these wonderful hot ladies, and that, my friend, is an exceptionally good thing. Try it and see if we're right - what have you got to lose?
WHAT THIS BOOK COVERS
Okay, enough with the sermon (for now). Let's cut to the chase, shall we? Of the thousands and thousands of opportunities for commercial sex that are available, much of it isn't what we would call "safe." Now, keep in mind that our definition of "safe" includes getting what you pay for, that is, having a satisfying sexual experience. For some folks, any sex is good sex, and we say, God bless 'em. But that doesn't work for us. We think that sex you pay for should be better than the sex you get for free. There's a lot of commercial sex that doesn't meet that criterion, including crappy Web sites and inhospitable ladies that we don't happen to find attractive. So plan on doing some research, and we'll offer some suggestions.
Also, the nature of the paid sex business, particularly on the Internet, is such that many purveyors couldn't stay in business if they didn't rip people off. Why? Because a lot of it sucks. Commercial sex is a big business in which some people get rich, but it's not any easier to get rich from porn than it is anywhere else. But that doesn't mean a lot of people don't try, so there's a lot of garbage out there and a lot less caviar. The inferior providers try to snag you with the most annoying and intrusive pop-up windows, phony offers for free sites, bogus claims about being voted "number 1" this or that, and so on. Those sites go in and out of business all the time, and they do anything they can to get your money while they're still afloat.
There are so many scams out there and so much money sloshing around, it's easy to get taken for a ride. If you look where we tell you, and follow our rules for how to buy what you find there, you should be okay.
We say "should" for two reasons. First, we ain't making no guarantees. We don't know everything that's out there, we haven't tried everything that fits within our recommendations, and even for the things we have tried, things change. So you're on your own, got it? Don't come crying to us if something goes wrong.
Second, there's lots of illegal stuff out there, and it can be hard sometimes to tell what's legal and what's not. Is that girl really 18? Is that escort a cop? Is that particular sex act legal in your state? We don't know, but we have only one thing to say on the subject:
Don't do anything illegal! All of the information in this book relates to legal activities only. This book doesn't give legal advice, though, so you're responsible for your own actions. Don't do anything illegal!
So that's our philosophy. The people who aren't that worried about being embarrassed, fired, ripped off, hurt, infected, or arrested, don't need this book. They're buying whatever they want and they don't need our help. The only people who should read this book are those people (like us) who really want to buy some good sex, but are too scared, confused or intimidated by what's out there. If you just want to find some good online porn, have a naked stripper gyrating in your lap or getting laid by an erotic professional without putting your life, health, wallet or reputation at risk, we'll show you how.
PHONE SEX
One thing this book doesn't cover is phone sex. There are two reasons for this omission. Reason number one. A cool lady who goes by the name of Doxy has put together an excellent Web site that covers absolutely everything you'd ever want to know about phone sex. Check it out at www.phoneslutdiary.com.
Reason number two. At the bottom of each page of her very cool site, Doxy has posted the following statement: "Please don't steal from me, I know people who can make sure you're not identifiable from dental records." Since we don't have any reason not to take Doxy at her word, we're not going to give her any cause to think that we might have done what she said not to do.
Besides, anyone named Doxy who calls herself a "phone slut" and posts such colorful threats on her site probably gives outstanding phone sex, wouldn't you think? Don't believe us? Check out her audio samples: www.phoneslutdiary.com/diary/cast/doxy_bio.htm#specialties

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