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Stop Anger, Be Happy

by Kathy Garber

206 pages; quality trade paperback (softcover); catalogue #02-0809; ISBN 1-55395-095-X; US$18.95, C$23.50, EUR16.50, £11.00

A light-hearted, straightforward anger management guide that keeps you motivated and wanting to learn about your angry behaviour. Become aware of your angry behaviour and make changes for a happier, healthier life.

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About the Book Stop Anger, Be Happy is an essential workbook for anyone seeking help with anger management. Whether you are working alone, working with a counselor or therapist, Stop Anger, Be Happy is written so that you will feel encouraged and coached in learning about anger. This book is ideal for a wide variety of audiences including individuals, couples working together, anger management groups, school counselors, teens, Marriage and Family Therapist's, Psychologist's, Social Workers, Addiction Counselors, and Healthcare Professionals. Stop Anger, Be Happy offers straightforward solutions to the complicated problems of anger. Stop Anger, Be Happy is a breakthrough in the treatment of anger and is a necessary tool for anyone trying to deal with their own or someone else's anger. Is anger taking over your life? Do you feel out of control? Are you ready to make changes in your life, but not sure where to start? Let me help you find alternatives to your anger. Step by step you will learn how to: Recognize your anger and other anger producing emotions Commit to healthy behavioral change and stay committed Put an end to the negative inner self critic Build your self esteem Learn positive self talk techniques Take a successful time out Relaxation techniques Speak assertively so that others will listen Handle mistakes Respond to criticism Forgive yourself and live in solution Manage your anger with success!

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About the Author

Ê Kathy Garber, R.N./B.S.N./ M.A. in Psychology/Marriage and Family Therapy has more than 20 years of experience in the healthcare industry.Ê She is member of the Sigma Theta Tau Honorary Nursing Society, a Diplomat of the American Association of Anger Management Providers, a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.Ê Kathy is a Certified Anger Management Facilitator, Certified Online Instructor, and Certified Parenting Instructor.Ê Kathy developed and designed AngerManagementOnline.com, an online interactive anger management program and is an active director and facilitator of the program. Kathy works with individuals and groups coaching and teaching anger management skills. She also works with individuals and couples in psychotherapy.

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Sample Excerpts

Introduction My hopes in writing Stop Anger, Be Happy were to produce a book on anger management that would be user friendly, straight forward and useful to all who seek help in learning about their angry behavior. Each chapter is written to include assignments that will require you to think about, learn and study your own behavior before progressing on to the next chapter. You may work through this book at your own pace; however, you should plan on taking at least a week on each chapter to fully understand and practice the new skills you are learning. My hopes for you the reader are that you will enjoy reading Stop Anger, Be Happy. I hope it will motive and keep you motivated in learning how to change the behaviors that aren't working for you anymore into healthy new behaviors that will make you successful in your life and relationships. I hope your new behaviors play a part in finding the happiness you desire and deserve. Examining and changing your own behavior is never an easy process, nor will you learn about it and become proficient over night. However, with hard work, dedication and desire, you can do it. You can change your behaviour if you work at it and I hope that you will find it a little easier with the help and guidance of Stop Anger, Be Happy. Out of this book a website was developed as a place where individuals working on problems with anger can discuss and find support from others with anger problems. The online community offers discussion boards moderated by an anger management facilitator and the use of a live chat room. Quizzes were also added with printable certificates for those requiring proof of their involvement in an anger management class. AngerManagementOnline.com is a supportive environment designed to welcome all who seek help in managing their anger. The ultimate goal in anger management is not to eliminate your anger, but to learn how to express your feelings in healthy ways that will allow you to gain the outcomes you desire. Learning to experience your feelings and expressing them in healthy ways is not a simple process; it is a life long process.

Chapter 1 Anger is a Fact of Life If you suffer from angry behavior, you are not alone. Experts estimate that millions of people of all ages and backgrounds have problems managing and controlling their anger. The number of people expressing their anger in the form of violence is increasing everywhere: work, home, shopping centers, schools, highways and even war. Although anger has been around forever, the world we now live in is more complex than ever before. Daily situations have become more and more irritating causing more stress and more angry behavior. Think of a time recently when you experienced anger. I am confident that you will quickly muster up a thought or two of recent encounters with rude people, traffic jams, incompetent co-workers, road hogs and the least of our favorites, critical people. When these stressful encounters happen over and over again in your daily routine it is easy to understand why millions of people experience and suffer from anger. Because our world and lives are becoming more complex, you may not be able to avoid the situations mentioned above or the triggers that bring on your anger, but you can learn to change the way you think and the way in which you choose to display your anger. The Truth Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy human emotion. However, if you do more than just talk about your anger or angry feelings, you risk causing destruction to yourself and others in your life. As an adult, you have a responsibility to learn what triggers (fuels) your anger and to develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge. The truth is we all feel angry some times. Like any other emotion (happiness, sadness), we each experience and express anger at different levels. Some people tend to become angry very quickly "hotheaded". Some people are slower to show anger, but still have problems keeping their anger under control. Some people believe that they do not or never have had a problem with anger. After all, they are not screaming, kicking or punching walls so they must not have a problem, right? If it's true that everyone experiences anger, where is their anger? Their anger is bottled up so tightly inside of them it is like a vibrating volcano ready to spew hot lava all over the next person or event that causes them stress. Or, maybe it does successfully continue to hide inside, fester and in turn cause a multitude of health problems and low self-esteem because their needs are never met. The only difference in hiding your anger deep inside or "letting it all hang out" is that you are the only victim of your anger, but make no mistake about it, you do have anger. No matter how you displayed anger in the past, it is time to start fresh and learn healthy new behaviors to replace the old ones you have carried around for a very long time. The Price You Pay Who doesn't like to shop around for a good deal? Who wants to pay a high price for something we can get cheaper somewhere else? Discount stores even help us out by price matching, strategically offering low cost items and price planning. When it comes to saving our money, we make every effort to find a good product at a fair cost. Why are we so willing to search for good deals and low prices to keep money in our pockets and at the same time willing to pay huge prices for our angry behavior? Have you ever shopped around for good deals on ways to change or learn about good behavior? Who looks around for that good deal on anger management until it costs you something or you are forced to take it? Anger, if it hasn't already, will eventually cost you something. Angry behavior usually carries a very high price tag and once the damage is done, there aren't many good deals to find. Think of the highest price you are willing to pay to let your anger remain unmanaged and uncontrolled. What expenses might you encounter or may have already encountered by not managing your anger? Court costs? Repair costs of the destruction performed while you were angry? Attorney fees? Hurt feelings of loved ones and friends? Loss of a promotion? Shame? Guilt? The list could go on and on, but the ultimate price you could pay is a relationship with a loved one. Can you identify with some of the costs of anger below in your own personal life? Have any of you already paid the price?       · Anger has consequences, and usually involves hurting other people emotionally or physically.       · Anger can affect your work costing you earned promotions and leave you with feelings of guilt and shame.       · As a result of your anger, co-workers or loved ones may not want to be around you fearing that your anger will become out of control.       · Friends decline your invitations fearing your unpredictable anger.       · Your kids make excuses not to go places with you.       Take a moment now and think of a price you may have had to pay for your angry behavior. Ask yourself: What price did you pay to boldly display your anger? What did it cost you? What have you lost as a result of not controlling your anger?

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