Let Them Come

About the Book

This book is to serve as an introduction to an alternative way to how we counsel our youth. Nouthetic Counseling is a Biblical alternative to counseling. The form of counseling using the Word of God to instruct, correct, rebuke, and reproof any problem that may arise in an individual's life. In this book, the reader will discover a unique method used to counsel youth.

It is apparent that many children are now coming in for secular counseling, and are at a much younger age. Many of our youth are perscribed high doses of anti-depressant and psychotropic medications. Medication only sooth or quite the individual, it does not solve the problem. Secular counseling only rehashes a traumatic event, and yet, the underlying problem is still not resolved.

About the Author

Felisa McQueen-Lawson was born in Arcadia, Florida and raised in Rochester, New York, where she graduated from Thomas Jefferson High School with High Honors and was the class Valedictorian. Felisa is Co-Founder and Co-Pastor of Urban Assault MInistries, Inc (Temple of Praise) located in Sneads, Florida. She has a Bachelor and Master Degree from Smith Chaple Bible College (SCBC), and is a Doctoral Candidate (May 2004), of the same. She also serves as an Associate Professor and is Dean of the School of Nouthetic Counseling at SCBC. Felisa is a board certified Faith Based Clinical Therapist and has memberships with the American Association of Christian Counselors. She is married to David (Pastor), and is the mother of one son, the late Calvin J. McQueen.

Table of Contents and Excerpt

TABLE OF CONTENTS

About the Author...11
Preface...13

PART 1
1. Welcome to the war zone...21
2. What is Nouthetic Counseling...25
3. Prerequisites for a Nouthetic Counselor...29
4. The A.G.A.P.E. Method...47

PART 2

5. Approaching Our Youth...53
6. Train Up a Child...57
7. Sins of the Father...59
8. Grown-up too Soon...65

PART 3

9. New Heights...71
Conclusion...75

Chapter 7

Sins of the Father

Acts of sin are passed down from generation to generation. Therefore the term "sins of the father", now becomes known as generational curses. Curses are manifested by rebellion. Rebellion from what? Rebellion from the knowledge and obedience to God the Creator. Daniel 9:5 of the Bible says this, "We have sinned, and have committed iniquity, and have done wickedly, and have rebelled, even by departing from thy precepts and from thy judgements."

If the only thing that our children see is violence, day in and day out, they will presume that it is okay, and that everyone experiences it. Our children are very impressionable, and observant. They will say the things you say, and do the things you do. In order for us to train up a child in the way he should go, we as the parents, adults, mentors, etc., must be the prime example of living a life of holiness and righteousness. Yes, we will make mistakes, but that's why it is written that we must strive for perfection and repent daily.

Children can be abused in as many ways as the adult victim. There is the obvious physical abuse such as pinching, hitting, twisting arms, etc.; sexual abuse which is usually incestual or by a close family friend; intimidation such as instilling fear, being violent towards a pet, yelling, etc.; isolation from peers, grandparents, siblings, or another parent; using threats like suicide, abandonment, harm to a loved one, etc.; using institutions as a threat like the police, foster home, jail, mental institutions, God, etc.; and there is the emotional abuse like name calling, put downs, spying on the other parent, being inconsistent, and shaming the child. How many of us have experienced these things, and probably have done these things and not realized that we were being abused or abusive? In many Christian homes, children are taught to honor thy father and mother, and to obey your parents. In my household, the common phrase was, "Do as I say, not as I do."

Children are not stupid. A statement like that simply implies that the parent is not doing what he/she should be doing. Children often learn by hearing and observing, wanting to be like daddy, wanting to be like mommy. They understand what it is to be good, but if all they see is bad, and that is not dealt with and corrected, then yes, they will grow in the way that they have been trained. They will grow up to be VIOLENT, INCONSIDERATE, UNTRUSTWORTHY, and UNGODLY. Thus, we have the generational curse.

A generational curse will linger until someone in the generational line, recognizes the sin in their life, repent and be reconciled to God, ask Christ Jesus to be the Lord and Savior of their life, get sanctified by the blood, crucified by the Word, calls that violent spirit and every other demonic spirit associated with it, to come out, and is totally delivered, and then get baptized and filled with the Holy by the Spirit, having a life of peace, joy, and happiness, living holy and righteous. Ghost, that he may walk in the Spirit, and live