Lower the Mask

About the Book

When feeling inadequate we envy others; their self assurance, intelligence, charm, or popularity. We wish we could be like them and enjoy the benefits they seem to enjoy but are denied us. During such times, the “Real us” is downgraded and seen in need of improvement. Our self evaluation becomes negatively slanted. We are tempted to hide behind a mask that keeps others at a distance and cloaks our insecurities. Unfortunately, such hiding can be habit forming and become an ingrained ineffective behaviour pattern. Worse still, we are denied the interpersonal experiences needed to offset feelings of deficiency.

The book discusses mask lowering strategies that help the emergence of the real self. Various ways of lowering the mask are discussed. Topics exemplifying this included: Being honest and truthful with yourself, growing and developing, daring to be you, opening up and letting your feelings show, risking friendships, forgiving and forgetting, having faith and related subjects. Suggested action summaries, conclude each chapter. A section is included for the first time entertainer outlining the steps to follow in preparing for and serving a successful dinner event.

Lower the mask is a light hearted book with practical suggestions on how to feel OK about ourselves. There is a chapter that meets your needs!

About the Author

The author, Dr. Paul Otke, is a man of many professional pursuits. Included are careers as a college dean, military officer, psychologist and business man. Otke has a deep regard for all people, regardless of station in life, education, ethnicity or age. He is a listener, always eager to learn from the wisdom of others. A moment of conversation will acquaint you with his strong belief in common sense, heightened by his witty sense of humour. He is that rare commodity – a happy man.

Dr. Otke is married to Selma a nurse, has three daughters, one son and nine grandchildren.