Mistress Rose

I have had a very varied life to say the least, and although a large part of this book is about my life as a dominatrix, it is first and foremost my life story as a whole.

I must admit that it has been extremely difficult for me to write this book, because no one wants their mistakes in print and in the public domain, but I can honestly say that it has been very therapeutic for me as well. I have managed to put most of my demons behind me now and get on with the rest of my life.

I started my journey through life by being physically abused by my mother and sexually abused by my uncle. My journey has taken me from the poverty ofGlasgowin the fifties, to the peace and contentment of the present day. In between these times I have experienced so many highs and lows. With the encouragement of my husband Steve, I have decided to bare my soul. I have tried to give some helpful advice along the way, and I sincerely hope that it will help someone who may be suffering from some of the things that I have. I have laughed a lot during my life, but I have cried a lot as well.

I sincerely hope that you decide to follow my journey through my book and I sincerely hope that this book gives hope and inspiration to every single person who reads it.

I have the experience that comes with dominating many, many men. No matter what fantasy they are into, I know that the person who comes to see me will divulge their innermost secrets to me. I know that I have made money out of these people, but I sincerely wish that they could tell their partners their secrets instead of me. I have said earlier that most fantasies (if not all) can be traced back to early childhood experiences. The one thing they all have in common though, is that their fantasies will never go away. It has been built into their nature by either by events they have gone through, or they were born like that. It’s like trying to “fix” a gay man or women. You simply cannot do it so don’t even bother trying. They were born gay and they will stay gay.

If you find that your husband, wife, or boy/girlfriend has a fantasy, don’t make fun of it. Try to put them at their ease and talk with them about it. By talking it through with them, you may find that you may have a place for it your relationship; you may even enjoy it yourself.

Most marriages or relationships fail due to three main reasons, money, trust or sexual problems including infidelity. If your partner can’t talk about his innermost desires with you, then who can he talk to? He may be too ashamed about his fantasy and so he will have to act it with someone else such as – me. Believe me when I say that a vast majority of people Will have to act out their fantasies at some stage; wouldn’t you rather it was with you instead of stranger. I know that even the thought that a stranger knowing things about my partner that I don’t, would be too hard for me to bear. Please don’t let this happen to you, and most of all don’t make him /her feel as though they are perverted, because they are not. Laugh about it with them, not at them

The word pervert is used far too loosely these days to describe anyone who veers away from plain sexual intercourse in any way whatsoever. Wouldn’t you rather have a loving partner who enjoys something different, with you, or would you sooner have a loving partner who has to keep secrets from you and sneaks off somewhere to have his fantasy fulfilled with someone else? I know which one I would choose.

If you try to fulfil their fantasy now and again, ask them if it is enough. If you find that you cannot participate in their fantasy, at least you will know they are not the person with whom you should be having a relationship. Unless you can come to some sort of compromise that is. I couldn’t do that though, because I would always feel as though something was missing; just like the little girl with the itchy feet did, all those years ago inGlasgow.

Whatever your decision, you won’t have any secrets between you anymore and, most importantly, you will have total trust between you, which, once lost, can never return.

I had to go through two marriages before I found someone who I can honestly say that I trust and love implicitly, and I am so much happier because of it. He told me his fantasies, I told him mine, and we acted on them. Through my track record with relationships I have found the saying, “Honesty is the best policy,” to be so true in a loving relationship.

Of course I have regrets, but I can at least I have time left to be able to fix one of them. It is the fact that I haven’t been able to pass my skills onto another dominant woman the way Jeanette did with me. I would like to be able to pass these on to someone before my skills die along with me.

One project that I am considering for the future is to be able to train the female partner of couples who would like to live this life-style. I am not talking about training them as a professional Dominatrix, although I could do that as well. What I mean is to teach them to be proficient in using any equipment they may have for use in a loving relationship.

I will not train men to dominate a woman though because I believe that women are the stronger sex anyway and it would therefore be wrong in my opinion.

Mistress Rose.