Thou Shall Knot In Love And Marriage

Thou Shall Knot in Love and Marriage is non-fiction. The book relates to interpersonal relationship skills in today’s marriages. Frank and formative “F” words, like flexibility, friendship, finance, and fidelity are a few examples of establishing communication skills between couples. Sex is frankly discussed under fooling around with a section on the Ten Commandments of Human Sexuality. For example, relating to sex, Thou Shall Knot if you do not view sexuality as a duty.

The book is laced with humor, quotations, and personal stories. Some of these stories, and most of the written material, relate to experiences of the author after thirty years of marriage counseling. In the chapter on flexibility, a quote from Margaret Thatcher sets the tone: “I’m extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end.” Flexibility allows individuality to exist in the marriage, and patience is crucial in maintaining the appropriate space in the relationship, and allowing changes as the marriage evolves over the years.

Money concerns should be a major topic of discussion in a marriage. Finance problems now rank number one in marital issues that lead to a divorce. A chapter on financial management will ignite discussion on this important topic. A lesson in “fraction” economics teaches a simple wisdom of not allowing expenditures to exceed income.

Many readers will find the discussion questions page at the end of each chapter a plus in starting the communication process between couples. These questions are phrased in a way to generate small group discussions as well. A chapter on fun will allow many creative ides to flow within a group or between individuals in a marriage.

Thou Shall Knot in Love and Marriage makes it very clear this not a How To Book, but more of a: “If you want a happier marriage, this is what helps with having years of experience and working out the issues over time.”

Reading this book will be an exciting journey with additional chapters on fighting, fairness, and faith. Whether you are a faith person or not, you will find the format of the book, based on I Corinthians 13, a bonus to the spirit of working to insure your marital happiness through the process of communication.