NO EXCUSES!

Rule#1 To thine own self be true To thine own self to be true. A lot of women forget we need to be true to ourselves. We walk around playing the role as mother, lover, sister and daughter. But we forget to be true to ourselves. That’s sad but true. It’s especially true when it comes to family and friends. I constantly see women bending over backwards for family and friends when they don’t want to. They put up with crap because they don’t want to make anybody mad. And we can’t forget about women who can’t say no to a man because they don’t want to lose them. Women will go through the motions all the while being disgusted with their selves because they are too scared to say no for a change. Would you knowingly shoot yourself in the head just to please somebody? Well you basically are every time you are not true to yourself. It is not your responsibility to make sure everybody else is taken care of. No one knighted you super save-a-hoe. The only hoe you need to save is yourself! Calling you a hoe may seem a little harsh but I call it like I see it. Because the reality of the situation is everybody is technically “pimping” you. You’re just another hoe on the stroll. For some reason we lie to ourselves. We know that we aren’t living the “to our own self be true” life. Women tend to give themselves to someone one else without giving it much thought. It’s ok to put your all into something but you can’t leave yourself out of the equation. Nothing is going to change until you begin living true to yourself. You may lose some people that you thought loved you. But if these people can’t or won’t accept this new you then don’t worry because they weren’t true blue to begin with. So by them disappearing they are actually doing you a favor. You have got to be good to yourself. You cannot be so busy that you forget about you in the equation. And it’s not about being selfish because sometimes selfishness is good. How can there be anything wrong with you loving yourself to the fullest? Granted, life can happen but you can handle life. Trust and believe in who you are and make the best life for you. You can still be a caregiver, but all I’m saying is make sure that you give to yourself first not last. This is not a dress rehearsal it’s the real deal so you cannot afford to waste a minute, hour, or day. And now is the time to show what you are made of. There’s a woman I know name Kayla. She’s been with her fiancé since high school. They’re getting married next summer. On the outside it looks like a happy family. Looks can be deceiving. Not only does Kayla not want to get married but she doesn’t even want to be with Joe. They’ve out grown each other. This is easy to understand. People change. You’re not the same person you were at sixteen. But sometimes that change can cause a division in a relationship. Kayla swears she still loves Joe but if that is what love is like; I’ll stick to hate. Instead of Kayla being true to herself and breaking things off, she’s still planning on marrying Joe. She will willingly take a vow in front of God that she will surely break. The question is why? Why can’t she be true to herself? Why would she rather fake the funk and play house instead of living in peace? Kayla is just like many other women who are not happy at home but stick around for whatever silly reason that they can come up with. “I can’t leave until the kids finish school” or “I got to wait until I have enough money” They sound like valid excuses but they are just that. EXCUSES! In Kayla’s case she is too comfortable where she’s at to be true to herself. She would rather have people thinking she has one big happy family. Kayla’s motives are strictly selfish.