The Guilty Mirror

Just as the title implies, we are the only ones to blame for our downfalls and lack of self esteem. For your perusal pleasure we will be taking a look at ourselves through this literary conveyance of just how normal some of our self destructive traits are without feeling hopeless and dejected, then and hopefully with a smile on our faces, we can proceed to restoring a more positive attitude about ourselves. Many books have been written on the topics concerning personal motivations through career, fitness, nutrition, finances etc. Most of these references are good in nature (they aren’t worth a crap in the home) however one usually finds a lack of versatilities and common sensibilities that apply to the majority of the population. After all we get crammed down our throats on a daily basis that one size fits all through just about every form of marketing we encounter, not to mention being skeptical about the integrity of those other bottom feeders, it’s about time we reclaim our dignities by putting on our big people pants and telling those less desirables to “kiss our ass”. What a great way to feel better as your nemesis plants their lips on your fleshy seat cushion. Sharing my thoughts while helping you improve and feel better about yourself is somewhat simplistic in nature, as we can all relate to other peoples experiences, even though most will find parallels, 90% of the data I used are a direct result of my own practices. Soul searching can often times result in unflattering findings, so keeping these in perspective could prove very beneficial to one’s self outlook. Not everyone needs to fly across the ocean to Asia, trek the Himalayas in 37 days by yak then bare your soul to a Tibetan monk through meditation and yoga techniques, when a twenty second saunter to the bathroom mirror with earnest intensions can produce the same results, other than some unbelievable landscape photos. I disagree with so much of the conventional wisdoms and force-fed propagandas that we have endured over our individual lifetimes, which I have come to realize is probably the main contributor to the fact that so many diets, exercise, and personal growth programs, fail. There are so many systems that are easy to understand and still not be overwhelming to the user, but because these concepts rarely cost anything to the participants, they are lesser known as the opportunity for the almighty dollar is not there. We are literally sold a bag of goods, and the truths are that “HEALTH IS NOT CHEAP”, or so they want us to believe. The primary purpose of this book is to take a self x-ray in a realistic sense and not get overwhelmed, confused, frustrated or self destruct before giving yourself an honest attempt at improving your self esteem. After all everything pertaining to your personal attitude starts with how you feel about yourself, hence it makes no sense to take care of the outside until the inside is in shape. Over the years we all gather tidbits of information from many various sources, whether they become useful, time wasting, positive, negative, whatever the case may be these all have direct or indirect effects concerning our thought and action processes. Many people feel they have mastered and are in control of their surroundings along with having the abilities to discipline themselves to maintain a balanced life, I say “good for you, you bastards” as they are by far the minority. This book is for the rest of the world that just needs a little added push to get them to feel better about themselves, hopefully to encourage and incite those willing, to do something positive. The world is going through a very awkward stage with many doubts about our economy, jobs, money, government and overall future leaving a record number of people with different stages of depression and anxiety. I have personally experienced and witnessed many with depression concerning the before mentioned and can say that trying to feel better about yourself to the point of wanting to improve your self esteem with so many negative variables surrounding us, is difficult at best. For many, just getting through the daily grind is all we feel can be done and the hell with extracurriculars, so taking the long way from the couch to the refrigerator is justification for the onset of their fitness program. It would be, and is easy to blame our low self esteem and lack of motivations on what is going on in the world around us today, but the simple and HONEST truth is that, we have only ourselves to blame. Not everyone needs a total reconstructive make-over or a fifteen round daily boxing match to beat themselves up, rather just some tweaking here and there. I do not claim to be a therapist however years of observations have shown that depression on all levels DOES NOT discriminate. Look at all the wealthy and noted people that have committed suicide or have fallen out of the lime light. Here are individuals that had, or have it all, and still possess the same challenges mentally and physically as everyone else. I have heard many times that 95% of what we do and why we do them, are a direct result of what goes on between the ears, so with that in mind there is hope for us, as we all have ears and some degree of inherent thought control. We need to alter our way of thinking and increase our self esteem and the best way to accomplish that is to do what makes us feel good about ourselves. In the coming chapters we’ll cover various common sense methods and thought processes to help each of you bring back some of that lost self esteem or motivation through simple recommendations that anyone can do and understand, but most importantly how to change the image you see in the mirror, for the better.