True Partner

About the Book

In that book, True Partner, Rev. Francklin Fequiere demonstrate the path that can be followed to make the good choice to stay married in order to defeat that common devil called divorce. It is Rev. Francklin Fequiere passion to ensure that the new generation build stronger relationship, happy couple, less stress and say bye to separation. By doing so, the next generation will be train in the way they could treat their partner as someone important. Rev Francklin received his Theologian degree at Seminaire de Theologie Evangelique de Port-Au-Prince and a degree in Healthcare Pathway at Housatonic community college in Bridgeport, Connecticut. He continues giving care at Nathaniel Witherell and Waveny care center, Greenwich and New Cannan, Connecticut and also volunteers in preaching Gospel, Sunday School teacher and Bible Study at his home church Refuge Temple Church of God and Free Methodist, Connecticut, USA.

About the Author

Rev. Francklin Fequiere was born in Petit-Trou- De-Nippes, Haiti. He is a Theologian, an Accountant, a man of law, a nurse. He wrote that book in order that someone can benefit and get encouragement to stay steadfast while in their journey. This body of work is not just an expose of good accomplishment in life, but rather present the journey of a someone who has been introduce in the plan of God. Through that book the reader could regain hope when feeling like giving up while battling in the storm of adversity. This book reflects also the encouragement of some colleges at work or at school when hearing his testimony said that it was supposed to be in writing where people who were in despair, depressed or discouraged could find strength to get back on track. May be what they suffer now might be nothing compared to someone else testimony. Sometimes people don’t want to follow the process of marriage that puts them in difficult situations in which they give up or end up to divorce. Being a counselor of thousands of marriages since I started my ministry in late 1900. I questioned myself about what so many marriages get divorce, some of them live a separate life and other live together but suffering in a struggle relationship. I start to study man and in man what is permanent and universal in order to define man. Finally, I discovered the fundamental problem of marriage is a partnership problem. Sometimes, marriage doesn’t end to divorce after getting married, but before getting married. When looking at a real marriage, there are three component which are: Declaration, Preparation and Celebration. If the first component bas been messed up, the couple will suffer in that continuous relationship. In that book I will focus on the choice of a true partner, which the first component, the first stage that is the foundation of marriage. In every construction, if the foundation doesn’t have a solid base, it will collapse sooner or later. I am not writing about business marriage or marriage for interest but marriage where couple committed to live forever, built a strong relationship in order to defeat that devil called divorce, put a stop on domestic violence, trained kids the way they should be, less delinquent and offered a new beginning for the next generation. In sum all partners are good. There is no bad partner but there is bad choice or choosing by taking chance. Most of the time you do not know who you are choosing. You are just going blind by love. Marriage fails not due to a lack of love, but because of poor effort, communication, and shared, actionable commitment to overcoming, rather than being set apart by, life’s pressures. The core problems are typically poor conflict resolution, financial stress, mistreatment, and unrealistic expectations while love is an emotion that ebbs and flows. In marriage love is a choice, not h just a feeling. So, marriage requires intentional, day to day effort and the commitment to show up remains crucial when feelings wane. The primary killer of marriage is not a lack of passion, but poor communication and friendship, and lack of honest, open and respectful dialog. Marriage thrives when couples work as a team to keep external pressures such as work, finances, health behind them, rather than letting those stressors wedge themselves between the partners. Marriage’s relationship is not being bossy, but how you treat your partner because the quiet neglect of taking each other for granted destroys partnerships faster than big arguments. The main problem of marriage is not because the partner is bad but a fitting problem. Whatever good a partner could be. If he or she is not fit, there will be problems in that relationship. Let me take an example; if you go to department store buying shoes. Looking in the rack there is a name brand for example “Louis Vuitton” size 7 and size 12; and the other side one pair of shoes with no name brand size 9. Your shoes size is 9. If you get Louis Vuitton size 7, you force your foot to get in it. If you try to walk with it, you can make few steps after that you will feel so uncomfortable and you have to stop and take it off, because is it not your true size. It is the same thing for marriage if you married someone that not fit, you could be in that relationship for few months and then get separated. That partner tries to make you climb the heaven backward. If you buy the size 12, whatever you put in it to make it fit, you still going to feel uncomfortable, because it’s not your size. In that case if you buy the “No name brand” size 9, your size is 9 you will see how comfortable you are wearing it. That is the same thing happen in marriage if you do not have the true partner your marriage will be hell because of fitment. Most of the time you choose partner by façade not the true one. You take chances by choosing partner according to beauty, financial, background, physical appearance, first look, love, and other advantages at the end of the day the sentence you will hear over and over is, he or she is not my type. Now you have two choices, either you face the situation or you give up. Facing the situation can be positive or negative. If it is positive good luck; if it is negative, it is the way you handle it. It might turn to domestic violence and the result is jail. That is not finish yet, if there are kids, raise another problem which is living a single parent life, delinquent, and so on where no one around to guide them. Let me take another example: You have a Mercedes and you looking for a transmission, you found a Porsche transmission brand new. Are you going to put it in your Mercedes because it is an expensive car. When looking at the part, nothing wrong with it but you are going to say it is not good. Why, it is a brand-new part! It is not good because it is not compatible. It is the same thing if your partner is not the true one, it is not a bad partner even though he or she is the richest partner in the world. If he or she is not compatible; but it is not the right one. The real problem is not what you see in the exterior but what it is in the inside.